Writing the Perfect Note for an Engagement Gift

✍️ Because a heartfelt message lasts longer than the ribbon

Why Your Note Matters Just as Much as the Gift

You’ve nailed the gift, whether it’s an engagement gift, a curated gift box, or something cheekily clever. But before you hand it over, pause. One of the most memorable parts of any gift isn’t the present itself, it’s the note that comes with it.

A well-written message adds emotion, intention, and meaning. It tells the couple why you gave what you gave, and more importantly, how happy you are for them. And in a world of rushed texts and half-hearted group chats, a thoughtful handwritten card hits differently.

What Makes a Great Engagement Gift Note?

The best engagement messages strike a balance between warm and personal, without being awkwardly over-the-top or generic. A great note usually includes:

🎉 A heartfelt congratulations
💖 A nod to their relationship or love story
🌟 A wish for the future
😄 A little humour or personal flair (if that’s your style)

Most importantly: it sounds like you. You don’t need to be a poet, just speak from the heart.

👉 Want to know more about the modern rules for gifting right? Explore our Engagement Gift Etiquette.

Structure: The 4-Sentence Formula That Always Works

Feeling stuck? Here’s a go-to framework that works for any relationship:

Congratulations: “Congratulations on your engagement!”
Personal touch: “It’s been amazing watching your journey together.”
A wish for the future: “Here’s to a lifetime of love, laughter, and perfectly poured wine.”
Sign-off: “Can’t wait to celebrate you both – much love, [Your Name]”

Example Messages for Different Relationships

💕 For Your Best Friend: You found your forever person, and I couldn’t be happier for you both. From first crush to future spouse… what a ride. Love you always.
🥂 For a Couple You’ve Just Met: Huge congratulations! Wishing you both a lifetime of joy, adventures, and a bar cart that’s always stocked.
🧑‍💼 For a Workmate: All the best in this exciting chapter. May your engagement be the beginning of a lifetime of laughter and shared snacks (and spreadsheets).
👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 For a Family Member: We’re overjoyed for you. Seeing how happy you make each other fills our hearts. Can’t wait to be part of it all.
😄 For the Funny Friend: Finally put a ring on it, huh? Here’s to love, laughter, and arguing over what to order on Uber Eats. Love ya both!

How to Make It Extra Special

📝 Use luxe stationery
✍️ Write it by hand
😂 Include an inside joke
🎁 Match the tone of your gift

👉 Stuck on what to pair the note with? Check out our guide.

What Not to Write in an Engagement Card

❌ Jokes about divorce or “ball and chain” tropes
❌ Overly personal or embarrassing memories
❌ Passive-aggressive comments
❌ Pressure for the wedding

Pairing the Note with the Right Gift

📜 Sentimental note + personalised wine
🍸 Cheeky note + cocktail jar or gin mini
🎁 Warm note + curated gift box

👉 Build your own engagement gift box here and we’ll even write the note for you (seriously).

Handwritten or Typed? The Personal Touch Dilemma

Handwritten > Typed, every time. Even if it’s short, the personal touch always wins. If you’re gifting at scale, a typed note with a handwritten signature is a nice compromise.

Final Thoughts: Make It Memorable with Your Words

In a sea of gifts, a heartfelt note can be the thing the couple remembers most. Whether it’s one funny line, a sincere wish, or a beautiful quote, your words make the moment.

🖋 Start with “Congrats” and end with something they’ll want to keep forever.